The Book of Twenties

WHAT ARE TWENTIES FOR? 


“Your twenties are going to be the prime years of your life.” What does it mean to have “prime years”? Does it mean to suffer for a successful future or to make it a life of a party? Existential crisis is the term which came into existence during 20s. The self critic is so active that you may feel worthless. Establishing self identity, balancing intimate relationships and forming a career, is a lot on the plate to begin the adult life with and can be a catalyst to drown the mood.    
                                    

                                           

              
Every chapter in twenties opens with hopelessness and self doubt. The basic human nature is to doubt oneself whenever starting something new. This decade will stink of fears and doubts. Even though the successful entrepreneurs vote against it, but somewhere back of the mind they had a fear of failure. However, it is over to them what they gave power to. Having fear is not bad, but too much of terror hinder the possibilities of new adventures.

Starting the chapters is as difficult as finding a lost eraser, until a friend helps you find it. I have never found my erasers without help. Similarly, the book of twenties begins to give an option to have a support, of friends, family, or a partner. Few gladly take this option but few do not. I am one of the latter. I preferred to live my struggles by not ‘disturbing’ any other soul with them. I was ready to listen to anybody’s rants but decided to not vent about mine. Until one day, my friend decided to scoop whatever was inside, disturbing me. After that discussion, I understood why this support is important. I understood what exactly is to have a support, to just be out with the problem and having comforting feedbacks.

These feedbacks will give you a sense of strength to fight for whatever you deserve. Hence, starts the next chapter to be independent and stand on your own feet. The journey of this chapter is filled with truth bombs and the return of self doubts. I felt completely lost after my under grad. I started to believe that there is no college that is willing to take me and I have no specific talent to have a job. Those days still give chills to my spine, to think about how stressful and lost I was. But this chapter had a smooth end. I ended up having both, a reputed college and a great job. However, it was now even more stressful to choose between the two. It was a win-win situation but what will help me more was the point. These situations seem easy to handle but trust me are not.

 It is like having an option for two cute guys who like you equally but has different ways. This takes us to one of the most concerned chapter, the chapter of love and passion. They say, there is no right time to find a soul mate but most of them get married in their twenties. It is not necessary that the first person you met will love you to the eternity, please do not apply rom-coms to real life. Do people say ‘love’ these days, because I have only heard about ‘like’? You might miss out on right ones but make sure your missing out is worth it.  My cousin once said, “If that person was meant to be, the situations will turn out to be in your favor”.

The epilogue of this book conveys that the twenties are about making mistakes, looking for new adventures, and meeting new people. It is about putting in hard work but also to be patient enough to let the hard work pay off. It is about partying hard and making your own rules. It is about everything you want to experience, it is about to live.

I follow a rule for my twenties, it is “I want to have careful experiences so that I do not regret in the future”.

 

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