Pre-requisite for a good friend

Do you ever ponder what sort of a friend are you?  Are you putting in same amount of efforts as others to have that bond?

I was thinking about it and I realized all my friends are well aware of my “anti-social” behavior. I cannot talk to an individual every day. FYI, this is not because I am busy but I literally have nothing to talk about. I feel silly to share information which is not related to you. My brain automatically filters out the information that does not concern you. And this applies to everybody, including my best friend.

I remember having this conversation with my best friend. I asked her, “How do you feel that we do not talk or chat or meet every day? What are your thoughts about our intermittent talk sessions?” She calmly replied that it is a part of my personality. Her theory says that it is not necessary to give everything out but to be there for each other. Efforts are necessary but it does not mean you cannot have your own space. I agree that my idea of space is a lot different and distant from others.

But does asking for space makes you a good friend? Or can a bond only be created when you interact every day? Well, according to me, you cannot decide whom you vibe with. If both of you receive good and positive vibes from each other, they will know and understand the space you need. To form a covalent bond, the strongest, it requires electrons from each element but it also requires that each element act as their natural self. In other words, bonds are created by staying together and being yourself. I have all my friendships based on this theory.

Yes, communication is extremely important in any relationship and there is no doubt about it. But having nothing to say is also fine. My focus is to maintain my friendships by being there to make fun of them, to support them, and to be there whenever they need me. On the other hand, interacting every day is not my cup of tea. Is it paradoxical?

Fortunately, I have friends who are fine with me being opposite of a social being.