The “What if-s”

 “What if I did not clear this interview?”,“What if they did not like me back?”,“What if I fail?”

There are incessant “what ifs” waiting for you to call them out and build on them. If you are a horror fanatic, you know that saying the name of the demon out loud makes them more active. The same applies to the ‘what ifs’. These are the demons of our lives.

Amid these questions, ranting or venting is so easy that we hardly try to figure the answers. The answer to, what if I fail? can easily be deciphered. The problem can be solved by just turning 'what ifs' to 'even ifs'. But all these questions are inducing fear and pulling us back from taking any step forward. Rather than preparing for the upcoming event, we are questioning ourselves again and again.



Darius Foroux’s “Win your inner battles”, used a different approach to understand fears. According to the book, when men used to hunt, the fear helped them warn against some grave dangers, for example, being lynched by a predator or climatic conditions, etc. By the time, human species evolved and the percentage of these dangers stooped down. However, the evolution did not work the same with the fears. Fears were supposed to protect us but now we do not think the same way. Somehow, it is controlling our actions rather than helping us act in a situation. It is the fear in us that is hindering our growth and promoting ‘what ifs’. 

Fear is a choice. One can overcome by being competent in their respective field and working for it or can just sit with. Life, especially twenties, is meant to take risks and discover the purpose of your life. And it is realistic enough to think and take your time to react to your surroundings. Life is unpredictable and situations will not always be in your favour.  I read an article that says emotionally intelligent people do not hover over what they cannot control. Most of the stress within me is either about the future or the past, but none of them is in my control. It is the present that I can alter. As Barack Obama said,

“We did not come here to fear the future. We came here to shape it.”

 

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